- How do I feel?
- What do I want?
- How is the past coloring my present?
- What am I getting out of staying stuck?
- What do I need to say?
- What agreements have I broken?
- How can I be of service?
Source: Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-commitment by Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks
The Hendricks’ propose these questions to couples to rebuild their relationships but I think they are applicable in pretty much all interactions.
Question 4, What am I getting out of staying stuck? is a very powerful question. Most people don’t want to accept that they are stuck, let alone examine the reasons they are allowing themselves to stay stuck.
And, as they say, “The power of a question lies not so much in the answer but in the state of consciousness that it opens up.”